The engagement was hard for all kinds of other reasons too. It was stressful planning a wedding. I had never planned a wedding before; what could I possibly know about it? Especially planning a wedding where we were going to make everything ourselves. The process was rife with difficulty and frustration. Everything cost more money than we had available to us. And none of the planning was any fun. Booking halls, making centerpieces, designing and printing invitations, picking out flowers, finding shoes . . . it was the opposite of fun in every conceivable way. I was disappointed to find that none of these tasks were quite as pleasurable as I had always anticipated. Prior to the experience, I had never imagined that in planning a wedding I would be spending most of my time looking at price tags and calculating costs and phoning hairdressers who were already all booked up. I didn’t realize that by the time I was tying the two-hundred-and-thirty-second thank-you tag onto its corresponding party favour that I would want to scream with exhaustion. I got sick to death of seeing those accursed wedding invitations that wouldn’t ever come out of the printer straight and that kept coming unglued from their backing. And putting together a guest list was an absolute nightmare. Putting together a guest list is more or less an exercise in seeing just how many people you are willing to offend, and then dealing with the consequences by way of angry phone calls and the silent treatment by distant relatives.
Not cool, man; not cool. Why would anyone look forward to doing any of these things?
Continued in Part 3.
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I have read some of your most recent blogging entries and i have always wanted to back-track and read everything from the beginning. Today i have time….home sick from work…..and past the puking stage….grandma just picked up Christopher…..AHHH free time!
Now to my comment, i never realized that our feelings about and during engagment were so similar. The whole thing about planning a wedding and checking prices and so on so forth made me sick to my stomach….much like I feel right now. If it wasnt for my mom, I’m sure a wedding would not have taken place or at least it would have been quite pitiful. Thank-you for sahring your thoughts….it really is very encouraging to know others went through the same thing.