Comments on: What is the Point of Marriage? Part 2: To Grow Us Up http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/ Musings on Love, Marriage, and the Madness that Ensues Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:41:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: The Hubby Diaries http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/comment-page-1/#comment-530 The Hubby Diaries Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:03:38 +0000 http://projectmonline.com/?p=575#comment-530 I often like to refer to this "growing up" through marriage as "Two Becoming Too". So many people view marriage as a union when "Two Becomes One".. but I think this is somewhat flawed logic. As huband & wife you need to grow together as a couple but, you still need to maintain a sense of who you are as individuals. And, you both need the freedom for personal growth in addition to couple growth. And, you need to SUPPORT one another at all times. I wrote a post about this very topic, although my blog take a very lighhearted comedic approach to relationships, I do believe that mental & emotional "growing up" are a key to a successful marriage! http://thehubbydiaries.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/when-two-becomes-too/ I often like to refer to this “growing up” through marriage as “Two Becoming Too”. So many people view marriage as a union when “Two Becomes One”.. but I think this is somewhat flawed logic.

As huband & wife you need to grow together as a couple but, you still need to maintain a sense of who you are as individuals. And, you both need the freedom for personal growth in addition to couple growth. And, you need to SUPPORT one another at all times.

I wrote a post about this very topic, although my blog take a very lighhearted comedic approach to relationships, I do believe that mental & emotional “growing up” are a key to a successful marriage!

http://thehubbydiaries.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/when-two-becomes-too/

]]> By: What’s the Point of Marriage? Part 5: To Meet Basic Human Needs « Project M http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/comment-page-1/#comment-336 What’s the Point of Marriage? Part 5: To Meet Basic Human Needs « Project M Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:47:26 +0000 http://projectmonline.com/?p=575#comment-336 [...] Marriage has all kinds of romantic and spiritual functions. I’ve tried to explore them in my previous four posts. But it also has some practical functions. The practical ones are the ones I’m [...] [...] Marriage has all kinds of romantic and spiritual functions. I’ve tried to explore them in my previous four posts. But it also has some practical functions. The practical ones are the ones I’m [...]

]]> By: Elizabeth http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/comment-page-1/#comment-335 Elizabeth Sat, 09 Jan 2010 18:21:44 +0000 http://projectmonline.com/?p=575#comment-335 I agree that a big part of maturing is realizing you're not the center of the universe. I agree that a big part of maturing is realizing you’re not the center of the universe.

]]> By: Kathleen Quiring http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/comment-page-1/#comment-331 Kathleen Quiring Fri, 01 Jan 2010 19:48:18 +0000 http://projectmonline.com/?p=575#comment-331 Oh man - this is where I wimp out and say, "I am <em>so </em>not a therapist." I have no idea how I would advise you. The only thing I can think to say is that if he is not willing to grow up with you, I would reconsider marrying him. But I know nothing about either of you. Thanks for sharing your struggle with us . . . I don't know if you're a person of faith but I'll say a little prayer for you as you journey through this difficult decision. Oh man – this is where I wimp out and say, “I am so not a therapist.” I have no idea how I would advise you. The only thing I can think to say is that if he is not willing to grow up with you, I would reconsider marrying him. But I know nothing about either of you.

Thanks for sharing your struggle with us . . . I don’t know if you’re a person of faith but I’ll say a little prayer for you as you journey through this difficult decision.

]]> By: perpetuallytorn http://projectmonline.com/2009/12/31/what-is-the-point-of-marriage-part-2-to-grow-us-up/comment-page-1/#comment-330 perpetuallytorn Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:46:19 +0000 http://projectmonline.com/?p=575#comment-330 but what should you do if you are ready for marriage and all the maturity it brings with it... but he is not? Then what? but what should you do if you are ready for marriage and all the maturity it brings with it… but he is not?
Then what?

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