Comments on: A Manifesto for “Pretty Ok Sucks”

By: Self-Soothing, A Key to a Better Marriage — Project M

Self-Soothing, A Key to a Better Marriage — Project M — Wed, 05 May 2010 02:12:13 +0000

[...] Note: This is a guest post from Corey Allan, the Simple Marriage guy. You remember Corey, right? His posts are always brimming with marital wisdom and I’m proud to host another [...]

By: Monday Must-Reads » Will Blog for Shoes

Monday Must-Reads » Will Blog for Shoes — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:29:05 +0000

[...] In the spirit of true bloggy harmony, Kathleen and Corey agreed to exchange guest posts on each others’ blogs. He Said (On Her Blog): A Manifesto for “Pretty OK Sucks” [...]

By: Corey - Simple Marriage

Corey - Simple Marriage — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:47:54 +0000

Great quote from Shauna Niequist. Thanks for sharing it.

By: Kathleen Quiring

Kathleen Quiring — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:34:50 +0000

Thanks, Scott. I read your post and am grateful for your contribution to the discussion!

By: Kathleen Quiring

Kathleen Quiring — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:29:36 +0000

I love that Shauna Niequist quote (this is my first time reading it) – thanks!

By: Scott

Scott — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 01:55:50 +0000

I’ve appreciated the discussion on “good versus great” and offered more extended comments on my own blog. My concluding thought is excerpted below.

As with the Gospel of grace, in marriage it is right believing first that leads to joyful, stress-free and fruitful right doing. It is the message of grace that permits you to delight in your marriage, even if for now it is only “pretty OK,” yet still grow toward one that is some day “great.”

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 18:49:54 +0000

I have to agree with both perspectives (Corey’s and Kathleen’s)!
I think that this is where God comes in and saves us, gives us grace for past failures and sin and empowers us – through His strenght NOT ours! – to move toward a changed life in every area that will glorify HIM!

Thanks for your posts! I really enjoy these blogs!

By: April

April — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 15:19:42 +0000

I enjoyed reading both of the posts. I couldn’t stop thinking of Beth Moore’s comment at a marriage conference my husband and I attended. She said “My marriage is not great. My marriage is good, but it’s not great. And that is okay.” Part of me was stunned to hear anyone speaking at a conference to utter these words and the other part of me was elated to hear it. There is something refreshing about “okay” being allright. My husband and I are okay. That’s us. We get along well, argue well, make time to sit and do a budget together, have regular date nights, love on the kids, hug and smile at each other, voices are rarely raised in anger… togetherness is a treasure. But, when I start to read things or stories suggesting what we should be doing… I tend to focus on the fact that we are not doing those things instead of the goodness that already exists. I guess my point is… the blessings are there if I look. Shauna Niequist says, “What God does in the tiny corners of our day-to-day lives is stunning and gorgeous and headline-making, but we have a bad habit of saving the headlines for the grotesque and scary.

By: Corey - Simple Marriage

Corey - Simple Marriage — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 03:18:33 +0000

For you Stu- I’ll give you a good deal on the price of admission! Oh, wait, it is all free.

By: Stu @themarryblogger

Stu @themarryblogger — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:34:30 +0000

“Creating a life and a marriage that means something is entirely different than creating a marriage designed for happiness.”

Love that line ~ and well worth the price of admission. Oh, its free isn’t it?

Thanks to you both for the great posts!!