This is one of those totally selfish posts where I take advantage of your generosity. It is also one of those posts where you find out what a whiny little kid I am, if you didnât already know.
Iâve always held this tacit assumption that one of the curses God placed upon women after the Fall was something like âThou Shall Attend Bridal Showers.â Itâs on par with menstruation and childbirth. Itâs just one of those awful things we have to endure. Men have their own set of curses that we will never fully understand.
As a result, I approach bridal shower-planning with the assumption that every woman dreads and loathes them as much as I do.Â I assume that there are only a few things you can do to minimize the misery for your fellow womenfolk.
For example, donât plan a bridal shower on a Friday or Saturday night. Those are the two nights a week we hope to have fun and hang out with our boyfriends or spouses. Those are Martinis-with-the-Girls Nights or Snuggling-with-the-Hubs-Eating-High-fat-Ice-Cream-and-Watching-DVDs Nights. No one wants to be stuck in a big echoey church gym eating subpar potluck food with the brideâs aunts, playing Guess-Whatâs-in-the-Presents Bingo or The Purse Game, listening to another tired meditation on First Corinthians 13. Not on a Friday or Saturday night.
Right? Nobody wants this??
But there has got to be more to it. Thereâs got to be more than one way to shower a bride with gifts. And my dear sister-in-law is getting married this spring, and Iâm to be a bridesmaid. There has to be a way to make it not suck.
The trouble is, Iâm not very creative when it comes to these things. Iâm lost beyond letâs not make it for a Friday or Saturday night and letâs try to get everybody the heck outta there by eight.
So this is where you come in: have you ever been to a bridal shower that didnât leave you wanting to bang your head against the paper-plated table? If so, what did you guys do? What can make a shower a more endurable experience?
I think (shudder) *games* might be inescapable; have you ever played a fun one?
Have you ever received a door prize that wasnât a complete waste of space in your home?
Is there anything else you did to make it not completely suck?
A few things to keep in mind: it will be later winter/early spring, so weâre trapped indoors. And 50-80 women will likely be attending (weâre Mennonites. We have biiiiiig families). Also, strong drink is not permitted (the church gym has already been booked). Any suggestions??
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I know I offer an unfair assessment of bridal showers. My mom actually gets kind of offended when I talk about bridal showers like theyâre the Fourth Horse of the Apocalypse. Apparently, for many moms, showers are a welcome opportunity to get out of the house and hang with just the girls for one night.
And Iâll admit that the concept is rather beautiful. All the women in a community gather round a bride-to-be to support her and to supply her with household needs so she can start her new life without that added pressure. I can envision it being a warm, intimate, loving, and gloriously feminine event, full of generosity and joy.Â Maybe itâs my own fault I havenât been able to feel that so far.
But still. Do you have any suggestions?