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Confessions of a Married Girl Who Knows Nothing About Divorce

March 9, 2010

I’ve never had to think too much about divorce. Unlike most Westerners, I’ve never really had to face the issue. My parents, along with all the aunts and uncles I grew up with, as well as all my friends’ parents, are all still together. Not all of them are in happy relationships, but they’re all [...]

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Marriage and Lent

February 15, 2010

As a Mennonite-turned-evangelical-turned-God-knows-what, I have never participated in Lent. It’s not something that my church or family ever did. I never knew what it meant or why certain people were refusing to eat Reese Peanut Butter cups during certain times of the year but not the rest of the year. The few people who I [...]

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Mushy, Gushy Love

November 25, 2009

I really hate hearing about how awesome and special other people’s marriages are. I find it really gag-provoking. I hate when married couples make a point of letting us know that they are spending special time alone together. They refuse an invitation to hang out with the group because they’ve set the night aside as [...]

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Observing Grief: A Bystander’s Perspective

November 19, 2009

A book review of C. S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed. I learn something about love and death.

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Changes: Me and Affection

November 17, 2009

(Continued from Ch-ch-ch-changes . . . ) Growing up, I was never big into hugs.  As a teenager, I grew to rather dislike them.  And by the time I was a young woman I positively dreaded them.  I just didn’t like touching people.  Human bodies are all so warm and moist and mushy, especially women’s [...]

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Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes

November 16, 2009

For all the things my youth pastor said that I loved and agreed with, there is one thing he told us which I have never agreed with.  He told us that the moment you have sex for the first time, you are transformed into a new being.  As a result, married people are completely different [...]

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Word Magic: Turning the Domestic into Art

November 12, 2009

I’ve learned a little trick for dealing with my negative attitudes towards certain tasks: If an activity is unattractive, think of it as an art form. See, here’s the deal: before I was married, I loathed the thought of performing domestic, traditional-wifey tasks. I dreaded the thought of cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, baking, childcare, et [...]

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A Wife and a Scholar

October 21, 2009

Being married while being in school was fun and made me feel “different,” but it also taught me something about personal identity.

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Independence: A Virtue?

October 19, 2009

I consider the value of independence in a marriage.

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Misunderstanding Marriage

October 12, 2009

When my university professors suggested I do my PhD without my husband, I realized that our culture at large does not understand what it means to be married.

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