as prevention is the best cure regarding health, it is the same for
relationships. The best way to prevent relationship break ups is to
understand what causes relationships to end and to make a concerted
effort to avoid those issues. If you care about your spouse, you should
do whatever it takes to keep them around. The purpose of this article
is to examine the most common problems in relationships and help the
reader with strategies on how to “fix” the problem
before it is too late.
Old Memories Surface
the hardest things to deal with in any relationship is the past. This
encompasses Ex lovers, friends, families and other people that can
wreak havoc on any happy couple. Since there is no changing the past
the best way to handle this is to understand that those relationships
and circumstances are no longer active. Obviously the two individuals
have moved past, as should you. This is where individuals must keep
their jealousy in check and do their best to avoid ridiculing or
picking fights over past relationships. Everyone has a past, but they
are just that “the PAST”.
Lack of Respect or Feeling Unloved
times out of ten couples that have broken up will claim that their
relationship could have been fixed if their partner would have listened
to them. Sometimes when we are angry we become so engrossed in being
angry that we forget that our partner has feelings and must be
respected. The number one problem in regards to a lack of respect is
name calling and the put downs that are spewed during a heated
argument. This must stop; this is the fastest damaging technique in the
book. There is absolutely no room for calling each other names or
saying nasty things, ever. There is a difference between working out
differences and having an all out screaming match. Screaming does not
resolve anything and in fact it actually takes away from the dealing of
troubles lead to more fights than just about any other issue and that
is because it is an important part of survival. When two people do not
agree about how to handle money it can cause problems that boil over to
every aspect of their relationship. Dealing with money troubles is not
fun, but it is a fact of life. At some point and time everyone must
learn better handling, saving or spending tactics to ensure their
financial future. This should be done together by the couple because
after all they share in the success and debt of the relationship.
Communicating and understanding the wants and needs of both parties can
help stave off fights tremendously. If all else fails and the problems
with finances are mounting, some couples split their money. Each party
is responsible for certain monthly debts and this is the way that they
keep from fighting about money. In order for this division to work the
couple must have spoken guidelines and boundaries. Both must agree and
understand that they are responsible for particular items, but the rest
is theirs to manage accordingly.
person must be made to feel special by showing them love and respect.
That is not to say that there has to be lavish gifts, but a pat on the
back or thank you goes a long way. Life is busy, but not that busy!
Take just a few minutes and prepare a meal, write a letter or purchase
a card to let your lover know that you are thinking about them, it
a relationship in tact is much easier than overcoming the issues
surrounding a breakup. It is best to address them today than it is to
say sorry tomorrow, because your lover may not be there to listen.
If You Are Stuck On You Ex, You Need To Take Care Of This, Right Now.
Otherwise You Won't Be Able To Move On With Your Life. Get
Your Ex Back Now.